Recommendation – How to read the words in the New Dictionary:

A word is a vessel through which essence, energy passes. The word is never the thing itself.

What is the real “thing”? It is good to answer this question in silence.

Therefore the invitation to this dictionary is “tricky”; it seems like it tries to replace one “definition” with another “definition” but it does not. This dictionary is an opportunity to look at a word from a different perspective than we are used to. And ask what is the essence of this word, coming from the mystery? From nature? From the inconceivable knowing that everything is one, everything is motion and I am a part of it?
From here you will find that the new “definition” sometimes sounds poetic or even irritating to the mind, because it cannot understand it. It’s OK. Let the words be a tool and listen to the energy that passes through them. That’s exactly what we came here to do.

Pain, coming out of the knowing that everything is connected and everything is in motion:


Pain is an inner sensation that requires my attention. It asks me to stop acting automatically because – “something doesn’t fit here”, “ow, something hurts” – and look at it.


Pain asks me to notice where there is friction and opposition to what is happening right now. At most cases, pain is a “clash” between what THINK should happen and what is ACTUALLY happening.


It is my invitation to myself to observe – maybe I got stuck on a picture in my head?

Maybe I’m still doing something that it’s time for me to stop doing?

Maybe on the contrary, I should start doing something I postponed or didn’t realize it’s time? 

Pain is one of the ways my “head” and “soul” can talk to each other 🙂

Therefore, I will not want to block, avoid or “save” myself from pain when it comes, but to feel it as it is. Then I can be free to actually listen to it’s wisdom.


The reality it creates is that the pain becomes a gateway. An opportunity.


When I am ready to give up on what I think I know, on what I need or must have, when I am left with the pain as it is, I remember that everything is motion, and therefore this sensation will naturally end.


And then I can dive deep inside and be shaken up. At the same time I can also relax. It only sounds contradictory. 

And there, in the next moment, when I emerge from the water, I realize that I am not my pain and not my thoughts, but something else, motion, love, something indescribable, and it doesn’t compete with the pain nor is it hidden by it.


This “me” exists beside it, always, even when I’m in deep pain.

I have learned that physical or emotional pain is a negative experience that I should avoid because it doesn’t allow me to experience my “happiness potential”.

If I’m in pain it might say that I did something wrong, maybe a bad choice, an inadequate plan, or a lesson I haven’t learned yet.


Therefore, when I’m in pain I will probably conclude that something is wrong and therefore probably I’m wrong.


Nowadays it is more “allowed” to express pain but it is still a sign of weakness and vulnerability, so I will probably try to hide it, first of all from myself. 


The reality created: This outlook leads to suppression and avoidance of feeling pain, which is actually an attempt to control – myself and the situation.


When I try to control, fear rises up because if I fail my mission – I will hurt twice as hard.

When I don’t accept the pain as a part of myself and my beauty it becomes something external, a threat, and after it will “hit” me, it will leave a mark, a scar. It may stick with me, become a trauma that will hurt me again and again.


The fear of pain makes me look at everyone as a potential “hurter”. So I become suspicious and remote. Slowly, it grows on me and it’s harder and harder to get closer to anyone or anything. And the pain grows… because living in separation, distance, suspicions and fear – is painful.  


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