Loneliness

Recommendation – How to read the words in the New Dictionary:

A word is a vessel through which essence, energy passes. The word is never the thing itself.

What is the real “thing”? It is good to answer this question in silence.

Therefore the invitation to this dictionary is “tricky”; it seems like it tries to replace one “definition” with another “definition” but it does not. This dictionary is an opportunity to look at a word from a different perspective than we are used to. And ask what is the essence of this word, coming from the mystery? From nature? From the inconceivable knowing that everything is one, everything is motion and I am a part of it?
From here you will find that the new “definition” sometimes sounds poetic or even irritating to the mind, because it cannot understand it. It’s OK. Let the words be a tool and listen to the energy that passes through them. That’s exactly what we came here to do.

Coming out of the knowing that everything is connected and everything is in motion:

When I feel lonely, I am willing to stay with that feeling and to stay with myself without coming to any conclusions about what it means, without filling it up with something, without pushing for something or avoiding something else.

I agree to let myself be, just as I am.

The reality created: I can feel my own heartbeat. I can sense the energy of life that is me. The motion that flows in me by virtue of just being.

I see the thought I believed in and understand that there is such a thing as being alone – because it is with my own arms that I will hug the whole world. It is alive in me, pulsating with strength and presence.

And then I can remember that we’re all connected as one living being – that all lives are bonded, that all fates are shared. I’m not alone and I can never be alone. The feelings of loneliness and aloneness can then make room for a new movement that is happening in me and I can remember that I am life and that my nature and essence are love. There’s no need to fill me up. I am full and complete. By virtue of my very being, I am a blessing.

In the new definition, loneliness is the last piece of the puzzle. It is the reality that I wish to wake up to. It is the understanding that will allow me to see the full and simple truth.

“The day you were born was the day God decided that the world could not exist without you.”

We got used to seeing loneliness as

A deep-rooted feeling that I am different, that I am separate from those around me and from the world as a whole. This feeling of separation leads to pain, fear and despair. I live with the feeling that no one really understands me. That I need to figure out how to deal with life on my own. That I alone am responsible for my life.

When I feel lonely I think it means that nobody loves me. It feels like death, like a dark void that will swallow me whole. I will be depressed and life will have no meaning.

The reality created: I will always strive to fill up my life with things that keep me from this feeling. I’ll try to be as busy as possible. I will always have friends around and I will occupy myself with momentary pleasures like sex, food, cigarettes, sleep and so on.